It is said “You fall in love not by finding a perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly”. To a certain extent, it is true also, afterall nobody is perfect in this world. But what is important here is to find someone who is well deserving of his imperfectness being ignored. When it comes to our loved ones we often get irrational, don’t we? So we are back to square one, how to find someone who is just the right one for you or should I say, “The perfect match”.
We lead such a hectic and fast paced life that very often we don’t realize the value of people in our lives when they are there. The chances of a broken relationship increases when there is a difference in what we aspire for and what we land up with. Globally, the rate of failed marriages is increasing which is an area of concern.
One of the most prominent reasons for a failed marriage is an “imperfect marriage”. It’s kind of weird but many a times the reasons for falling apart are the same that brought you together. Blame it on adrenaline rush or whatever, people get so pumped up while dating that they end up getting married , in the heat of the moment. A typical “Happy ever after” tale where there is nothing happy ever after…!!! Life initially is pink and flowery but once you get over your fantasies that you realize may be it was too early to take the plunge. The problem here is not an imperfect partner but definitely an incompatible partner, who doesn’t fit your set of priorities and needs.
So the BIG question is what are the do’s and don’ts , that one must have in his/her mind when it comes to finding your soul mate. Finding your perfect someone is not that difficult but to hang on to him is definitely not so easy…
Here are few tit bits that will surely help you find your soulmate:
- Know what you want
We all are unique for we have different needs and aspirations and before getting into any relationship, be sure of what you want out of it. Don’t go with the flow but follow your heart because unless you are sure of what you want in your life, nobody would know.
- Ready , Steady and go
Don’t fall for someone just because all your friends have their dates to accompany them to the ball rooms or clubs. This is one thing you need to ask yourself whether you are ready for it or not. Don’t rush yourself and take your time. Get prepared up there in your mind and just go for it..!!!
- Talk, talk, talk and more talk
That’s the key my dear. One thing that can piss off any relationship is lack of communication. We all lead busy lives but little effort pays you in long run. In fact we are lucky in terms of technology here. Page, sms, blackberry ping, call, mail or do what you can but the banter should not end. There’s nothing better than a starbucks coffee and a chit chat with your someone special. Trust me , it will do wonders. Follow your heart and speak your mind and you are right there man.
We all are different human beings with varied taste, desires, hobbies, mindset and temperament. Explore what all you can do together and it is real fun. You both will have different opinions but variety is the spice of life, isn’t it. Stretch your comfort zone and open up yourself.
- Setting the priorities
While you look out for your perfect someone, its very important to set your priorities . Your priorities should decide your partner and not vice versa. Similarly you have to accept your partner with their set of values . People come with their baggage and should not be burdened with a “ to do list”. Accept them the way they are because u fell in love with the person and rest all is a package deal 🙂
- Oblivious to the obvious
Yes, there are times we need to ignore what seems to be very obvious. You cannot hold on to grudges and letting them go is the key to a blissful association. Let go of your Ego and bend a little, afterall that’s better than to break down.
All of the tit bits do not work in all real time situations but they do act as a catalyst. There is only key to a perfect match. Either you fall in love or get loved. And if you find that difficult , there is a long list of matrimonial websites willing to help you. And who knows, you might end up finding your soulmate. The medium is not important but the end result is. Trust your partner, and believe in love, and you will find your soulmate in him.